VSM Blog – A Vital Self-Management Tool

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Let the Magic Begin - original oil on linen painting c Robert F. McInnis " Visma's Green High Heel's" http://www.rfmmcinnis.ca

Dear Readers

Thank you so much for all of you who have made such encouraging comments on my blog over the past few months.

My intentions were to share with you my readings and photos of my life as it has been happening in the moment and this blogging process has been a real pleasure.  Below is an article written that portrays what I could not have written and expressed better myself.

Thank you.

With loving kindness and gratitude

Love Visma

June 6, 2011

Main Blog Post – Week 7: Blog as Self Management Tool

By cherylchen066

B) Lovink (Reader, page 222) also argues that: “No matter how much talk there is of community and mobs, the fact remains that blogs are primarily used as a tool to manage the self”. Discuss the argument by giving an example of a blog. Specify chosen argument in your answer.

We are what we imagine. Our very existence consists in our imagination of ourselves. -N. Scott Momaday

While it is more concerned for its relation with the news industry, the act of blogging was first seen as a way of diary keeping and discussed on its close features to diary on various aspects. According to Lovink (2007:6), the idea of “blogging as a ‘technology of the self’ was first developed by Foucault. Blogs, in this sense, are more of a tool for private conversations like the records of therapist’s rather than a public forum open for discussion to the online community. More specifically, Lovink (2007:28) argued that ‘Blogs are used for the need to structure one’s life, to clear up the mess, to master the immerse flows of information, as to PR and promotion.’ A blog call ‘vital self management’ created by Visma Mesley makes a typical example for the use of blogs  as keeping track of life experiences, perfect management of self-image, self-expression, and self-promotion. (http://vitalself-management.com/blog/)

Solove (2007:24) pointed out that ‘many blogs are more akin to diaries than news articles, op-ed columns, or scholarship’. Statistic showed that bloggers most commonly write about their personal experience, while only 11% blogs are about politics. Visma Mesley’s blog is kept in daily basis; her blog gives a clear view of her life, and her personal experiences and activities.It is as Medosch (2008) suggested, Mesley’s blog is simply a place where people can mix personal thoughts of what is happening in his life, reports, and comments on what is going on in the Web and the World that he lives in.

Blogs offer a way for one-to-many conversations. ‘Whatever the type, purpose, or content of a blog, it remains a virtual environment controlled by the author, where, unlike face-to-face communication, a person is only what is expressed in manifest content. (Tramell, 2004:3) Thus, Blogs offer its user better or even full control of self-expression and better management of self-image. Blogs, like other social networks, fulfils the need of self-promotion. The choice of theme, the colours in the space, the content we create all conveys a sense of the self. As Mesley blogs about her fear, and writes therapy-like posts such as ‘open your heart’, ‘let the past slip away’ and ‘stop punishing myself for fear’, she is providing not only the readers, but also herself the solutions to cope with negative emotions and to cope with the ups and downs in her life.

Furthermore, Looking throughout Mesley’s entire website, her blog keeps tracks of her life journey of all challenges and triumphs. By commenting her own life experiences in the blog, she was subjectively promoting her own idea of ‘vital self-management’, which is created by her own belief system and her personal sense of the concept.

Reference

Lovink, G. (2007) ‘Blogging, The Nihilist Impulse’, Zero Comments: Blogging and Critical Internet Culture, London: Routledge, pp. 1-38

Solove, D.J. (2007) ‘How the Free Flow of Information Liberates ad Constrains Us’, The Future of Reputation: Gossip Rumour and Privacy on the Internet, New Haven: Yale University Press, pp. 17-49

Medosch, A. (2008) ‘Paid in Full: Copyright, Piracy and the Real Currency of Cultural Production’, Deptforth. TV Diaries II: Pirate Strategies,London: Deptforth TV. pp. 98-100

Tramell, K. (2004) ‘Examining the New Influencers: A Self-Presentation Study of A-List Blogs’ <http://www.kayesweetser.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/02/trammell-keshelashvili-2006-self-presentation-on-blogs.pdf> Last accessed: 04/06/2011

Mesley,V. ‘Vital Self Management’ < http://vitalself-management.com/blog/> Last accessed: 04/06/2011

Where Do I Get My Energy?

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The coolness of Winnipeg Elm trees lining the streets

Where Do I Get My Energy

Think about my energy. Examine and learn what revitalizes me, refreshes me, renews me. Pumps me up. Makes me feel charged. How do I recharge my battery? Do I wait until my battery is drained, almost dead, before I recharge?  I have done that, it just takes a longer period of rest. A time to pause and be patient. Are there people or things in my life that drain me, deplete me? Do I want to let them do that?

A comfortable feeling of the past

Where do I go to get recharged?

Who are the people who enhance my life force, invigorate me?

Who does it feel good to be around?

What activities make me feel better?

What forms of nature speak to my soul?

Opens my heart, helps me feel alive, breathes life into my spirit?

Experiment. Spend some time watching, noticing the impact people, activities, and objects have on me.  Know that as I change, the impact of my environment, what is around me, may change, too.

Bar Italia a Winnipeg meeting place and cafe

Tune into my energy field and the energy

Of the world around me.

Learn to be sensitive,

Open up to how things feel for me.

With loving kindness and curiosity

Love Visma

Adapted reading “Journey to the Heart” by  Melody Beattie

Discussion on creativity and life

Karma Yoga in Assiniboine Park, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada

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Enjoying the Community of Yoga in Winnipeg

On My Yoga Mat

Moksha Yoga Winnipeg

Moksha Yoga Winnipeg has an annual community fund raiser at the Assiniboine Park

to raise funds for introducing yoga to children in the city schools.

What a wonderful idea!  I was participating again this year.

Enjoy the video below!

With loving kindness and gratitude

Love Visma

Let's begin our yoga with a heart opening exercise and breath. Enjoy and share the moment

to see the video c lick here,  Namaste          YIP 2011 – JOY SHARED=JOY LIVED from team Doucette on Vimeo.

Words of Gratitude and Acknowlegement to Melody Beattie

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Requesting for guidance for this day with gratitude

February 9 2011

Words of Gratitude and Acknowledgement to Melody Beattie and her book ” Journey to the Heart”

http://melodybeattie.com/about-2/

It has been my pleasure and great honour to have the book “Journey to Heart” given to me as a gift, from

a dear friend who was  also  at a cross road in her own life.

It has been my guiding light daily for the past few years.

I posted the readings from this book on my blog as one of the recommended

rituals that I had been practicing daily and found tremendous power to help me

with my own emotional toxins.

The intentions or readings were to guide me daily on my own road of recovery

and it would be my intention for the day, along with my  daily yoga practice.

It started as  part of my own recovery process in a 30 day  Moksha Yoga challenge in Winnipeg  July- August 2010.

I have since continued with this writing on my blog  I have  come to the realization that

I must wait for further guidance with how to proceed.

There are been an overwhelming positive comments from so many of you,

I did not realize that so  many  had been reading it  until a flood of comments poured  in .

For that I have been grateful and inspired and I thank you.

It was my way to throw it out to the “universe” so to speak, what I have discovered to be true.

If you wish to  have further information on the author and her books to take you further

on your own journey the web site is http://melodybeattie.com/about-2/

with loving kindness and gratitude

Love Visma

My writing Intention for Vital Self- Management

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Winter in the English Garden, Winnipeg Mb

My writing Intention for Vital Self- Management

by Visma Mesley

Vital Self-management was first developed as a means to share my experiences

and share my blessings of the tools and teaching that I have myself learned.

I have researched information on health and nutrition at an early age being an athlete and my university study in Kinesiology,

the study of humans, through health studies, and sciences such as sociology, psychology and physiology.

I would like to deal with categories  of the Mind, Body and Soul.

Life skills I  have found to be the core strength of change in the” Mind Body Soul connection” are:

  • writing “ morning pages” as a way to clear your mind and help access  emotions and self awareness.
  • setting your intentions for the day with Readings that are inspirational
  • exercise and recreational activities for fun and exercise to fit into your own lifestyle
  • connecting and understanding women – sharing stories
  • research on meditation, yoga , strength training
  • using the internet and modern technology to present personal knowledge
  • life planning methods which aids in achievement of personal and business goals

It is my intention to record and write my story, my life through out my 50’s.

It has been a very colorful and interesting and if I can share some of this information in a positive way that would be my goal.

My own life and observations when it comes down to a health are these 3 key factors

  1. developing a positive attitude
  2. nurturing  sound physical health
  3. harmony in human relationships

These  are the top 3 of my 12 keys to Success and riches of life.

The theme for this year  2011 is discovering and recovering my  creative Self.

That is my own personal goal and writing is part of this process.

Practical rituals that we can develop or access when the need arises.

Life is ever changing but digging into  that “tool box” when the time is right is often a life changing event.

I would like to develop entertaining ways to get my point across with stories that others can relate to and yet not be instructional but in a softer more personal way.

Stories that allow each one of us come to our own conclusions that resonate at our own pace.

Having Faith

that our life plan does not need to have all the steps laid out in a specific order but to have confidence and the  availability to our own inner voice  that makes each of us unique.

I have  spent my lifetime studying human behavior and our physical body with my previous career and my own unique family and life experience.

It is a topic that is complicated and so unique to all of us, and facinating how we are all interconnected.

It is my intention to find and expose those threadsof beliefs and attitudes that benefit or hinder my own  development  and family.

This journey of finding the best creative means of communication

allowing for my personal freedom to travel and be with my family

and nurture my relationship with my husband, Mike.

with loving kindness and passion

Love Visma

See Life Through the Eyes of My Soul

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Good morning from Winnipeg Manitoba

See Life Through the Eyes of My Soul

Throughout my life, I have had many conscious desires and expectations about my life.  I wanted this. I wanted that. I wanted my life to be arranged just so.

What I  have understood over time is that the journey I’m taking is not one based on arranging my life in a particular way, then keeping it just so.

The journey I‘ve been on what I’ve been seeking has been the journey of my soul.

Much in life can cause me distress and discomfort when I look with my conscious mind.

But if I look beyond what I can see on the surface,  I begin to see with the eyes of the soul.

The lessons run deep.  Often they take time to learn.

I learn about power.

I learn about love. Courage. Faith. Saying good-bye.

Embracing love for myself.

I am learning to see life with the eyes of my soul.

Experience all the emotions that are there.

Discover my truths. Seek  conscious peace as much as I can, and seek peace in my soul as well.

Let my soul lead me through meadows and take me down deep into the valleys, for all my experiences are that – experiences – on this mysterious journey of the soul .

with loving kindness and patience

Love Visma

adapted reading “Journey to the Heart” by Melodie Beattie

Happy Birthday Mike

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Happy 57th Birthday Mike May your wishes come true

Happy Birthday Mike

What a great time in Florida – A special Birthday to remember!

How was that for another first on your 57th birthday.

I thought last year on the pier in Jamaica was awesome.  Always interesting, always changing!

So, another day of when I just listen to what is guiding me and not to force anything.

It always works out for the best.

I love you Mike.  We had an awesome day today.

Every day and each year has been an adventure of the best kind.

Let’s just work on that and see what happens.


Open My Heart to Universal Love

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Open my Heart to Universal Love

The morning sunrise from my terrace on Donald St. Winnipeg Dec 14 2010

Open My Heart to Universal Love

I live in a magical, living, vital and personal universe, a world where universal love is real.

I don’t just live in it, I am part of it visibly and tangibly connected to it.

The phone call that comes at the right moment.

A comment on my blog to encourage me to keep writing.

A book that teaches me what I needed to know.

A movie that has the message I need to guide me and open my heart.

An opportunity that arises, at just the right moment.

An idea triggered by something, someone says or an object I didn’t notice before.

The more I open to universal love, the more it will be there for all of us, embracing, loving, holding, guiding us.

The more I learn to see it, the more it will be there- until I wonder why I never saw it before.

I open my heart to universal love.

It’s more than merely there.

It’s there for me.

I jump into the arms of a living, magical world and me.

Leap into the arms of universal love.

See how real it can be.

with loving kindness and compassion to all

who have connected with me today.

May the light in me shine out to the light in you.

Love Visma

adapted reading “Journey to the Heart” by Melody Beattie

Fall in Love with My destiny

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Sunset in Florida 2010

Embrace My Destiny

“Fall in Love with My destiny”

How often did I search outside of myself for some elusive moment, for an experience like  someone else is having, for an emotion I would like to feel but don’t, at least not right now.

How often  did I long to be somewhere other  than where I was, or someone other than who I am.  How easy it can be to complain about and regret my past, thinking it’s somehow wrong.

The answer is to fall in love — fall in love with my own life.

My destiny isn’t some far – off moment or something that happens to someone else.

My destiny is taking place right now  It’s been happening all along.

Destiny is that mysterious force or energy that magically intertwines with choice, free will,  and  fate.

Let all those elements weave  together and create my life.

But know I can help to create it too by falling in love with my own life.

Love all the places I have gone and all  the places I will go.

Love the lessons I have learned and the way I have learned them.

Most of all, love where I am right now.

Because that’s where my destiny lies.

with loving kindness

Love Visma


Adapted Reading “Journey to the Heart”

The Artist’s Way – The Basic Principals

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the Artist Way

by Julia Cameron

Dancer at the Leo Mol Sculpture Garden Winnipeg

Recovering A sense of Identity

The Basic Principles

Creativity is the natural order of life.  Life is energy: Pure creative energy.

There is an underlying in -dwelling creative force infusing all of life – including myself.
When I open myself to my creativity, I open myself to the creator’s creativity within me and my life.
I am, myself, a creation.
I am meant to continue creativity by being a creative self.
Creativity is God’s gift to me. Using my creativity is my gift back to God.
The refusal to be creative is self-will and counter to my true nature

When I am open to explore my creativity, I open myself to God:       Good Orderly Direction

It is safe to open myself up to greater and greater creativity.

My creative dreams and yearning come from a divine source.  As I move toward my dream, I move toward my divinity.

It is my intention to follow these basic principals through this journey and exercises from the Artist’s way by Julia Cameron

For more information please go to the following link:    www.theartistsway.com

With loving kindness and passion

Love Visma